just say no (2) ...

some time ago i wrote about finding it hard to say no ... well four years later, and i still don't find it much easier - i occasionally still end up in encounters with guys that i don't really fancy !

after chatting on grindr, i recently met a guy at the tube station, with a view to going back to my place ... but i didn't really find him very attractive ... so after chatting for a while (he was a nice enough guy, but i just didn't fancy him), when he suggested heading to my place, i declined ...

he was very disappointed, and asked me to reconsider ... but i held my ground ...

it's not fun upsetting a nice guy ... but it was strangely liberating ...

a proper date ...

i was chatting to a guy on grindr recently ... he seemed like a nice bloke, and fairly quickly he suggested meeting up for a beer. most guys on grindr suggest meeting up for sex, so this was a pleasant surprise ...

we met up near his place, and he turned out to be a lovely guy - we got on really well, and enjoyed a couple of drinks ... but i was meeting a friend for dinner ... so he suggested going back to his place later that evening !

i finally made it there quite late, but he was just about still awake ... and we started to enjoy each other ... we were having a good time ... and eventually he climaxed ... but before i had a chance to follow suit, he turned a bit strange ... said he was really tired, and more or less asked me to leave!

this wouldn't be surprising if we had just met up for a shag ... but it seemed odd for a bloke who had seemed like such a nice guy ! ah well, another experience of humanity i guess ...

a guy with old pics ...

i had chatted to a bloke on gaydar who seemed keen to have some fun ... his pics looked good, if a bit grainy ...

he came over to my place, and it was clear that his pics had been quite old - he was significantly older and heavier than his pics ...

we got down to having fun ... but it was not that great - it was somehow not very intimate (maybe neither of us fancied each other) ... and after climaxing, he didn't want to cuddle :-(

not an encounter that will be repeated !

foreign encounter ...

after my abortive hotel encounter ... it was after midnight, but there was another guy who was interested in meeting up, so i went over to his place ...

he had given me the address, but when i got to the location, there was an alleyway, but no sign of the bloke ... after the exchange of a few more messages on grindr ... i opened the gate, and nervously went down the alleyway, expecting the bloke to appear in one of the doorways ...

the first door i came to was being buzzed open, so i assumed that it was him, so i entered ...

there was clearly somebody at the top of the narrow staircase waiting for me ... so i climbed upwards ...

he had already warned me that his "brother" was asleep in the apartment, so our encounter would take place in the corridor outside ! luckily it was the very top of the building, so we wouldn't be disturbed ...

the bloke was lovely - he was only wearing a towel dressing gown, and he had a great body, and sizeable equipment. i was nervous about taking off my clothes in the corridor, in case i needed to make a rapid escape, but i gradually relaxed, and started undressing ...

he was a reasonable kisser, and wasn't too bad at sucking - but seemed keener of receiving rather than giving on that score ! he seemed genuinely to enjoy being with a man - rather than some blokes who just want sex, and don't actually like being with a man !!

we had an enjoyable encounter - especially considering the amount of cum that we both produced !

foreign hotel encounter ...

i was abroad for new year ... and was using the usual channels to search for a bloke for some fun ...

grindr seemed to be the most useful, with the exact distance displayed ... and so after quite a while trying to find a man, agreed to meet up with a guy ...

he came over to my hotel ... he was younger than i normally go for ... and he seemed a bit out of it - i suspect that he was a bit drugged up ... and when we got to my room, he said he was really tired, and that i was the third bloke that he had met that evening !

it all felt a bit weird - i'm not sure if he was trying to get money from me, or if he was just screwed up. anyway, it wasn't happening, so he left without either of us climaxing !

hotel encounter (part ii)

in what turned out to be my final encounter of 2010, i noticed the bloke who i'd visited in a hotel a few days previously on grindr again ... and so we agreed to meet up again ...

it was a reasonably enjoyable encounter ... nothing too notable really !

hopefully 2011 will result in more meaningful sex ...

hotel encounter

i was recently on my way home, and checked for any local guys on grindr ... and there was a nice enough looking guy ...

he was in a hotel, and after swapping pics, asked me to drop by ... which i was a bit nervous about in case i got questioned by the hotel staff, but he reckoned i would be ok !

after heading straight up to his bedroom, he let me in ... he was a bit older looking than his pic, but nice enough ... and we got down to enjoying each other ... he was using poppers, but i didn't partake ...

he was very keen on getting a mouthful, so i thought i better oblige ! despite enjoying himself, he didn't come to a conclusion ...

a shy guy ...

i recently met up with a guy i'd been chatting to on gayromeo ... he wanted to meet up for a drink, so i suggested he come over to my place !

he seemed like a nice guy ... but after a quick swig of wine ... he was soon burying himself in my embrace ! he wasn't a bad kisser, but nothing special ... partly because he kept snuggling when he should have been kissing !

eventually we moved into my bedroom and enjoyed ourselves to a natural conclusion. afterwards he was keen to clean up very thoroughly - which isn't always a huge compliment !

later we managed a bit of cuddling ... but unfortunately he had to head off ...

a drunken encounter ...

recently, i arrived home a bit drunk after an enjoyable night out ... and had a quick look on Grindr to see if there were any nice guys around !

a bloke contacted me who looked good ... and he lived really closeby, so he agreed to come over ...

when he arrived, he was a lot less attractive than his pics, and really quite strange looking and acting ... but i was a bit drunk, and he wanted to give me a bj ... so it seemed rude not to let it happen !

as always in these instances, i didn't feel good about it afterwards. a few days later, he contacted me on Grindr again - but i wasn't drunk, so i was strong minded and said no !

steam room hogs ...

i've written before about fun i've had in the steam room ... but recently, i visited, and it was packed out with fat blokes !

nothing really happened, and they just kept coming back in, spoiling the fun for the rest of us !

the bisexual bloke ...

a bloke recently contacted me on gayromeo ... his pics looked like they had been taken some time beforehand, but he seemed a nice guy ... so i thought it was worth meeting him in the flesh ...

he came round to mine, and he was quite a bit older and heavier than his pics ... but i was really horny, so i thought it was worth a go ...

the sex itself was ok ... he was quite a good kisser, and for a bisexual bloke, he seemed really into the male body ! but he was a bit sweaty, so he offered to take a quick shower ... which improved matters considerably !

after we had finished ... we chatted for quite a while about his life as a bisexual ... which seemed a bit tragic ...

an evening with ...

this bloke has become more of a mate, and we probably hadn't had sex since may ... but i recently met him for the first time since the summer ...

as always, he is an interesting bloke to spend an evening with ... and he asked if i wanted to stay over, but made it clear that sex wasn't on offer ...

however after a while in bed together, we both got horny, and things started to happen ...

it was one of the strangest experiences i've ever had in the bedroom ... he kept going from excited, to disinterested ... and whilst i always enjoy getting my hands on him ... it was not an experience i would like to replicate !

fun with a european guy ...

i recently hooked up with a guy who i'd been chatting with on grindr for a few weeks ...

he looked a bit different to his pics, but quite attractive ...

once we got back to my place he seemed quite keen to get on with the matter in hand ... but i slowed it down, and we made out for while ... which probably made him even hornier !

once we got to the bedroom i discovered that he was soaking with precum - awesome ! he also had one of the most impressive foreskins i've ever seen ... and he had a great body !

the sex was a bit strange though, as he didn't seem to be fully into it ... and it was ages before he finally climaxed ... where as i had been on the brink for a while.

afterwards he cleaned up, and i persuaded him to come back to bed for hugging ... and we chatted for ages, as he seemed to enjoy the hugging !

date in the cold ...

i'd been chatting to this bloke on grindr a while ago ... we hadn't met up then ... but i'd kept him as a favourite ... and i recently started chatting to him again ... and we agreed to meet up for a coffee ...

we ended up going for a walk in the cold ! it went ok and he seemed like nice enough guy, but i didn't think he was too interested ... so after an hour or so, when we were heading back to the tube station ... i didn't expect him to come back to my place ... but he did !

i hadn't had sex for quite a while before for that ... and it was a good to get back in the groove !

coffee and ...

a couple of weeks ago, i arranged to meet a guy who lived locally for coffee ... he made it clear that nothing else was on offer !

so he came over to my place, after some difficulty finding it ... but he looked completely different to his photo on gaydar ... not just a bit older, but a lot older !

he was a nice enough guy, but a bit negative and he just seemed a bit old !

despite making clear that he was only coming over for coffee ... he then seemed more interested in other activities ... but he just wasn't doing it for me, so I declined his offer ...