26 March 2007

meeting with a guy living in a shared flat ...

when i meet up with a guy, i always check that they have their place to themselves - i'm not really interested in meeting friends and relations when i'm going round for fun !

this time was the same as usual ... however, the difference was that this guy either hadn't understood my question ... or had chosen to be somewhat economical with the truth !

it turned out that it wasn't really a problem ... even when we went to their shared bathroom for a shower together - one of the most enjoyable experiences i've had for a while ... but the tv in the bedroom to drown out our noise, wasn't the best ...

we had a really nice time together, and the guy was lovely - great body, nice personality ... but there seemed to be something missing ... i still can't work out what it was ...

on the walk home, i wondered whether it is time to stop having encounters, and what i really need is a boyfriend ... not sure how long this feeling will last ... i suspect not very !

25 March 2007

gay or straight ... is it that clearcut ?

in a recent post Gay Banker complained about the use of the word Gay, to mean pathetic, in programmes such as South Park ... and whilst that doesn't really irritate me, there is another tv programme that seriously winds me up ...

Playing It Straight is a programme where a group of both straight and gay guys have to convince a woman that they are straight, in order to win the prize money ...

what annoys me is the idea that just by their behaviour, anybody's sexuality can be judged ... i know some straight guys who are unbelievably camp ... and similarly some gay guys are as masculine as you get ...

but what annoys me even more is the idea that a guy's sexuality can be classified in such a black and white way - straight or gay. there is such a spectrum of sexuality, from guys who have had a single same sex encounter ... to guys who regularly have sex with both genders ... to guys who are usually with other guys, but occasionally see a woman ...

the idea that you can classify people into such easy boxes is such a simplification of life ... and so offensive to the many guys who aren't on the extreme edge of sexuality !

14 March 2007

does gay sex encourage selfishness ...

a friend was recently complaining about one of her gay friends being particularly selfish ... and it made me wonder ... are gay guys on average more selfish that straight guys ?

and that made me wonder whether the act of having sex with the same gender leads to a more selfish attitude compared to having sex with the opposite gender ... that perhaps with gay sex you don't have to be quite as empathetic to have a good time - a guy knows what works for him, and doesn't always have to think about what the other person wants ?

i know that there are many gay guys who are not selfish, and plenty that are just as generous having gay sex than those having straight sex ... but this is averages i'm talking about ...

maybe it's bullshit ... but maybe not ...

10 March 2007

telling a friend that i like guys ...

i always assumed that a friend who is always asking about my love life, knew that i liked guys ... she has come close to asking me directly a few times, but i always managed to stop her - at the time i didn't feel ready to tell her, whilst not wanting to lie to her ...

well, it turns out that despite her allegedly good gay radar, it had failed her with me ... and she had no idea that my tastes were anything other than standard ... although perhaps the radar screen was clouded by her previously undeclared interest in me !

but she's a broad minded girl/woman ... and she took it well ... although she is running out of straight male friends ... which maybe says something about her ?

04 March 2007

date with an italian guy ...

i first started chatting to this guy more than 6 months ago ... we didn't correspond for a long time ... but started chatting online again a few weeks ago ... we swapped mobile numbers ... and exchanged texts every few days for the past week ...

we finally got to meet for a coffee ... and he seemed like a really nice guy ... we chatted for ages ... and i walked him home ... i wasn't planning on going in, but he thought his flatmate might be asleep, so we risked it ! unfortunately his flatmate wasn't asleep !!

we chatted for a while more ... and i wanted to hold him so badly ... eventually we had a quick fumble ... i felt like a naughty child, about to be caught at any moment !

whilst the fleeting moment was enjoyable ... i'm beginning to regret not waiting until we had more time to enjoy each other ...

just hope that he wants to give it a proper go ... will have to wait and see ...

03 March 2007

horny after sex ?

normally when i walk down the street i am reasonably discreet when looking at guys ... and only the really attractive ones get a full examination ...

but i find that immediately after sex, i can't stop myself checking them out ... i seem to be attracted to many more guys than usual ... and i can't help myself, probably quite obviously, giving them a (more than) once over ...

not sure if this is common ? maybe it is something to do with hormones released during sex ??

a really fun time ...

my excuse is that i was quite pissed ! i picked up this guy, and neither of us could accommodate, so we found a dark corner [so to speak] for some mutual fun ...

it turned out that he was quite drunk as well ... and we had a really enjoyable time - taking the piss out of each other, and pleasuring each other at the same time ...

i don't quite know why, but it was just really good fun ... laughing is not something i normally associate with sex ... maybe i should try it more often ...

he even seemed keen to meet again ... and we have exchanged a few texts since ...