false cumming

i was in the steam room the other day, with a beautiful guy ... with an even more beautiful dick ... but there was a guy in shorts in the corner ... so nothing was happening ...

a while later, the guy in shorts was gone ... but there was an older guy in the other corner, and it wasn't clear whether he was up for it ...

eventually i saw the older guy's dick start to twitch, so i knew we were good to go ...

the beautiful guy with the beautiful dick beside me didn't make any move for physical contact ... but after a bit, i leant over and started playing with his rock hard nipples !

he was already moaning before i started touching him ... so i though he was getting pretty close ...

the older guy in the corner had already shot his load, and was packing up to leave ...

so i thought i better get a move on !

i started to shoot ... and after the first couple of spurts, the older guy opened the steam room door and left ... with me still pulsating, right in front of the door !   it's not the first time this has happened to me - but it doesn't make it any more acceptable

sadly the beautiful guy with the beautiful dick didn't shoot his load ... next time i need to do more work on him to get him off !

 

too urgent

i had chatted with this guy ages ago ... but he was keen on barebacking, and i'm not ... so i didn't meet him

recently he contacted me again ... and he look so cute in his photos ... that i decided he was worth a go !

he was staying around the corner from where a friend of mine lives - so there was the added risk of bumping into my mate, and having to explain that i was there for a shag !

when i got there he was keen to get down to business straight away ... and he had an unattractive urgency that reduced the sexiness of the encounter ...

whilst he had a great body, and a really beautiful dick ... i realised as we progressed that he was quite a bit older than his photos ... and somehow less innocent looking !

he also really squeezed my dick when i was inside him - i don't think i've ever experienced quite so much compression before - and it was a bit too much ... he's clearly developed those muscles

he wanted me to cum on his face ... and i was happy to oblige ... but sadly he didn't ejaculate

he texted afterwards to thank me ... and promised to shoot next time ... but i don't think i will be going back

 

false starts

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Ghosted

Urban Dictionary defines it as: When a person cuts off all communication with their friends or the person they're dating, with zero warning or notice before hand.

I'm not sure if seeing a guy three times - with loads of texting in between counts ... but it still feels shitty.

I had arrived back into town after a weekend away on the Sunday, and already had plans to go to a show that evening with friends, and asked him if he wanted to come ... which he (understandably) declined

We talked about meeting up the next week, and he gave me a few days that he was free ... and I explained that I was trying to see a friend before he left the country ... and after soring out timings with GB, I replied later that day suggesting the next evening ...

The next day (the day I had suggested meeting) he then said he might have to work late ... and suggested we try another day ... but I already had plans which I couldn't move ...

I explained that I had tried to free up the other day, but hadn't been able to ... but to let me know if he was free another day ...

Silence ... silence ... silence

He had already starting initiating less text message chat ... so in some ways i'm not completely shocked ...

Even if he thought I wasn't making enough of an effort to make time for him ... or even if he guessed that i was a bit dubious about him having to "work late" ... ghosting is never acceptable

I read an interesting article about being ghosted ... and it mentions "Since you don't have friends in common or weren't introduced through some other channel, it's not the end of the world if you just drop off the face of the earth" ... but the odd thing is that we do have mutual friends, which we had discussed at length !

And whilst it's unlikely that we will bump into each other - it might happen.  It will be interesting to see how he behaves - or if he even acknowledges me !

At least I found out sooner rather than later that he's this sort of guy

 

Not the only Voyeur in the gym

i was in one of my regular gym steam rooms the other day ... and i guy a recognised from previous visits was there ... and clearly horny ...

after a bit i moved towards him ... but he moved away ... and i wasn't in the mood for a "no touching" guy ... so i left the steam and headed to the far end of the showers ...

where i found a shower cubicle with towels covering the clear glass section ... which is often a sign that two or more are gathered together for mutual enjoyment ...

doing a quick foot count ... i discovered that there were four feet in the cubicle !

i was pretty sure that one of them was a nice looking black guy that i've messed around with before - as i'd spotted him working out in the gym earlier, and he wasn't in the steam !

i thought the other might be a beautiful asian guy that i had also noticed in the gym earlier ... but i've never seen him either in the steam or in the showers ... but it was exciting to think it might be him ...

these guys took their time in the shower ... first of all they faced each other ... and then eventually they got into a standard penetration position ...

i really wanted to see who they were ... and i'd had enough time in the shower ... so i went to the steam, and sat where i could watch the shower cubicle comings and goings ...

which is when i realised that the previous guy in the steam had been doing exactly the same thing !

eventually one person emerged from the double cubicle ... and it turned out to be an older guy that i'd seen in the steam before - not the beautiful asian guy that i had hoped for !

quite a while later the other guy finished ... and it was the nice black guy that i had suspected ...

i really wanted to find out whether they had actually fucked ... but i couldn't bring myself to ask !

 

risk appetite

some recent articles / documentaries about the spectacular success of PreP in reducing HIV infections made me consider gay men's appetite for risk ... and whether we (on average) have a higher risk appetite than straight men ... and why that might be ?

obviously there are plenty of exceptions (i'm very careful) ... but thinking about the average person ...


gay men have more sex that straight men ... so does familiarity breed contempt when it comes to safety ?

gay men don't have families to think about ... so are we prepared to take more risks because we have less to lose ?

once you've taken the risk of coming out (and the possibility that your family / friends might reject you) ... and survived ... does your risk threshold get recalibrated to a higher plane ?

Ronnie Kray is supposed to have complained that his fellow gangsters went soft after they got married and spent too much time (in his opinion) with women.  since gay men tend to spend more of their time with men ... does that lead to gay men having a higher risk appetite than men who spend time with women ?


PreP seems to work (as much as it does) because gay men take it regularly when they are not in sexual positions ... where as condom usage requires interruption in the heat of the moment, with the chance of losing a sexual encounter

which would suggest that in the cold light of day, maybe our risk appetite isn't that different to straight guys ?

but once we get put into a sexual situation (especially if drugs are involved) ... our appetite for risky encounters is higher than straight guys ?

 

no hands

i usually try and only visit the steam room three times - with cooling off breaks / cold showers in between ... before giving up / shooting !

the other day i was in one of the most reliable local gyms - it has a male only jacuzzi, as well as male only steam and sauna - how much more cruisy do you get ?!

it was a friday afternoon (which is usually a fairly reliable time) but it was really quiet - not even many straight guys there

there was one hot guy that seemed like a possible cum buddy - but he was too nervous and thought it was "too risky"

but soon afterwards there was an overweight guy who was clearly up for it

i've written before about my guilt at getting off with a guy i don't fancy ... but this was my fifth and final visit to the steam for the day ... so it was now or never !

he moved over towards me, and started playing with my dick

at first i thought that his grip was too loose ... but he soon got going ... and before long i was getting close

he had a nice enough uncut dick that i was enjoying playing with - just that i couldn't look at him

there's something about the loss of control when a guy wanks you off that i really enjoy !

i didn't even watch my own cumshot (which i normally do) - the ectasy was so much - so i've no idea what size load i produced


afterwards he moved back over to the far corner ... and then started asking me if i was straight or bi or gay

maybe the fact that i had been looking away from him made him wonder

i was so exhausted that i had to sit an recover for a few minutes before thanking him and leaving !
 

selfish guy

i had seen this guy in the steam room plenty of times before ... and he hadn't seemed that keen on me ...

but this time he seemed a bit more interested ...

but it turned out that he was even more interested in getting me to watch the door whilst he had a wank

seriously - does anybody think they can get away with that sort of selfishness ?

luckily somebody else came in, so it was a good excuse for me to get out of there and leave that self centred idiot to himself

 

what counts as a date ?

a friend asked me round for dinner the other evening - but i couldn't go because i had a date ...

the next day my friend asked whether the date was worth missing out on dinner !

i told him it had been reasonably good ... and the sex wasn't bad either !!

my friend suggested that if we were having sex then it couldn't really be counted as a date ...

but i reckon that as long as you send some time outside (not public sex type thing) - preferably around other people ... even if you end up banging each others brains out ... it still counts as a date !

my friend wasn't so sure

 

how high is your sex drive

one of the things about myself that i've realised over the years ... is that i seem to have a higher sex drive that most of the guys that i've dated / gone out with

and the trouble with that is that it feels like it transfers some of hte power in the relationship to the other guy - if you're always up for it and they are limiting your access to it ... maybe this is what it feels like to be a man in a hetero relationship !

after finishing sex (on a third date) - i asked him how high is sex drive was ... to which he said "medium" ... which didn't really tell me very much

he asked me and i said medium / high ... as i'm sure that there are guys with a higher sex drive than me !

i really would prefer to go out with a guy who wanted as much sex as me ... maybe it would be strange !

and what if he wanted more sex than me - how would i cope with that ?!

 

3rd date

the day after he got back from holiday we had agreed to meet up ...

and after exchanging messages, he said he would come over to mine in the evening ...

after meeting him at the tube station - he seemed to want to go straight to my place ... but i persuaded him to go for some food first ...

once we got to my flat, it wasn't long until we were in my bedroom again ...

again the sex was reasonably good, without being amazing ... i noticed that he seemed to want to just lie on his back ... rather than anything more energetic ... which i don't find the best !

afterwards we had another good chat / cuddle ... before he headed off to catch a tube home

 

quick gym trip

sometimes i just go to the gym for a quick shower

which is what i was doing the other day in one of my local gyms ... before meeting a mate to see a movie ...

but there was a guy in the steam room that was obviously interested ... and when i stood near him he started playing with my junk !

it didn't take long before i was shooting my load on him - after giving him due warning that it was about to happen !!

but he never actually got hard during the encounter - i'm not sure if he just didn't find me attractive (but then why touch me) ... or whether he was high ... or maybe he just doesn't get hard ?

 

second date

so the guy that i'd been on a date with the previous week was about to go on holiday ... and he contacted me to suggest meeting up the day after he got back from holiday ...

then i suggested meeting up that evening ... and he agreed !

it felt a bit like he didn't want to appear too keen ... but maybe i'm over-analysing !

we agreed to meet near my place ... which i thought was a clear signal that i wanted to get naked with him ... and when i met him at the station we exchanged a quick kiss on the footpath ... after our failure to kiss at the end of the first date

i brought us for a bit of a walk to the river ... and we had a drink sitting outside the bar ...

and afterwards continued on down the river bank a little ... before i suggested going back to my place ... which he agreed to ...

and before long we were in my bedroom !

the sex was reasonably good ... not amazing.  and we chatted and cuddled for plenty of time afterwards, which is always a good sign

 

kiss at the end of a date ?

i was on a date recently ... we went to a cafe on top of an art gallery ... and then for a walk across the city ...

it was all very enjoyable - he seems like a nice guy ... and he's definitely an attractive guy ...

but as we were saying goodbye ... i thought he was moving in for a kiss ... but i moved ... and then he didn't seem interested in a kiss !

if i hadn't moved to begin with ... it would probably have happened

then you begin to wonder if he's actually interested ...

 

older than photos

i was chatting to a guy online, and he looked really cute

but when i arrived over to his place, he was quite a bit older

i nearly left straight away ... but i was feeling horny ... so stayed !

it was quite a good session ... but his english wasn't the best ... which was surprising since he's lived here for over 10 years

we both shot our loads ... and said goodbye ... and he suggested meeting again ...


he has contacted me a couple of times on Grindr since then ... but i'm not really that keen

 

there were four in the steam

i was back in the steam room where i had shot recently ...

and the "no touching" guy was there again ... and a couple of other guys ... and we were all spread out ...

three of us were clearly up for it ... but there was a beautiful black guy in the corner that wasn't making any obvious signs ...

eventually he started adjusting himself ... and that was enough for proceedings to kick off !

but nobody moved closer to each other ...

so we eventually all shot our loads without any contact at all

usually four guys shooting is really hot ... but the lack of physical contact reduced the horniness considerably

 

endless sucking

i was on holiday recently in europe ... and feeling horny !

a nearby guy was looking to suck ... and whilst i was probably looking for more ... i don't mind a fellatio session from time to time ...

getting into his apartment block became an ordeal - eventually he had to come down and let me in manually so to speak ... it turned out it was an AirBnB rental, so maybe he hadn't figured it out properly ...

he looked a bit older than his profile claimed ... or maybe he had just spent too much time in the sun which had aged his skin ...

but he turned out to be really good at sucking ... and he really was keen to keep going for a long time !

eventually it was time for me to shoot ... and since the sitting room floor was easy to clean - he was happy for me to cum over it ... and boy did i cum !  probably one of my most far reaching ejaculations ever !!

he seemed happy with it

 

Everybody's Talking about Jamie - musical

with GB about to leave the country for a month, we were trying to arrange a night out ... and i suggested a relatively new musical called Everybody's Talking about Jamie

the strapline "a new musical for today" annoyed me when the adverts first appeared - it seemed rather meaningless ... and i feared that the musical might be a bit empty too !  but it had recevied fairly good reviews, and was one of the few musicals i hadn't already seen ...

i got tickets for us in the Dress Circle - having failed in the online lottery for front row tickets - but at least we weren't missing out on any close up nudity !

some of the songs in the first half felt a bit weak - but the second half songs were quite a bit better - without ever being "amazing"

the acting was pretty good, and i particularly liked Shobna Gulati - such an impressive transition from Coronation Street

the dancing was great fun at times, and i thought Marvyn Charles was the best - such graceful, natural movement

the ending was probably the best i've seen in the West End for years - a different take on the standard bow / encore / bow routine.  almost all the audience were on their feet.

ultimately it did feel to me a bit like it was jumping on the Billy Elliot / Kinky Boots bandwagon ... and that worry i had about the fatuous tagline presaging an empty script wasn't wholly misplaced !

if you get a decent price (as we did after failing in the lottery) - then i would recommend this musical.  but i personally wouldn't want to pay full price


if you can't make it to London anytime soon - it will also be playing in lots of cinemas on 5th July, and some more on 6th July, 15th July and finally on 16th July