20 June 2008

first encounter in over a year !

it was good to discover that i hadn't lost my online hookup skills in the year since i'd last used them ... i chatted to a guy who seemed very nice, and whose body pics looked really nice too !

we met up at a station near his place, and i wasn't disappointed - maybe a little older than he looked in his photos, but not much ...

after getting an orange juice at a local shop, we headed back to his place ...

he was the first to make body contact, and i responded positively! by the time we got into the lift to go up to his flat, we were all over each other ...

the activities were good - he had a lovely muscular body ... and afterwards we lay together for ages ...

he kept telling me that i was really sweet - which was a really nice complement ...

after some more activites, and some more relaxing, i thought i'd better check the time, as it seemed like we'd been together for well over an hour ... only to discover that it had been 3 hours!

i don't think that i've ever spent so long with an encounter ... and it really was a nice way to get back in the saddle !

19 June 2008

alternatives to gaydar

in london gaydar.co.uk has always met my basics needs ... i signed up to gay.com but i don't think that i've ever met anybody through it ...

however, in lots of countries gaydar isn't popular enough to be very useful ... so i've been on the lookout for some alternative websites ...

i signed up to outpersonals.com but am not enjoying the experience! for a start, they constantly try and get users to upgrade - i understand that the sites need to make money, but they don't have to be in your face all the time!! also, i just don't like the user interface ...

i also tried manhunt.com [what a subtle name], which is proving a much more pleasant experience ... the information needed to create a profile is minimal, and the search functions are really straight forward, and they don't limit the number of messages that you can send a day ! also, the look of the website is really clean and simple ... and the fact that there are always loads of guys online is another bonus !

if anybody has any other suggestions, please let me know ...

12 June 2008

visit to the clap clinic

after recent revelations, i decided that it was time to take another trip to my local Sexual Health Clinic ...

on my one previous visit, i got rather annoyed by the lecturing attitude of the doctor and a nurse ... i was hoping for a better experience this time ...

thankfully i didn't recognise anybody in the waiting room ... but i noticed a couple of other people did !

it didn't start off well, as i had to wait over an hour from my allotted appointment time ... but the female doctor i saw was much nicer than the male doctor that i got last time ...

between her and the female nurse, they did all the tests ... and this time they didn't do the slightly painful scrape of the urethra - apparently an improved urine test means it's no longer necessary !

just as during my last visit, they really pushed me to have a Hep A vaccine ... but i wasn't keen - slightly worried that future medicals might question why I had been vaccinated against it ...

the nice doctor questioned me about my sexual history, and asked whether i considered myself gay or bisexual - which i thought was a rather strange, non-scientific question ? she also checked whether i was aware that they do an evening clinic specifically for gay men ... which made me wonder whether she was suggesting it as a good cruising opportunity ?

anyway, the results took over a week, and i'd forgotten about them, until a text message arrived ... all clear !

03 June 2008

how to get rid of a steam room hog ?

my gym's steam room is being ruined by a bloke who hangs out there for ages and ages ... this bloke is not very high up on the desirability scale, so it just puts the rest of us off !

trouble is, how does one get ride of him ?

he has witnessed activities, so if any of us who are interested in fun, grass on him, then he'll be able to get us back !

any suggestions ?

02 June 2008

why not to take back a cheating partner ...

when one finds out that a partner has cheated on you ... after the initial pain subsides ... the possibility of taking them back needs to be considered ...

the main risks to taking them back are:

i) they'll do it again - despite the protestations to the contrary, they may do it again, and all the pain that was caused by the initial infidelity will re-occur ...

ii) the person who was cheated on will always wonder whether the cheater will cheat again - and this will both take up their mental time, and eat away at their positivity ... making the victim a negative / unhappy person ...

iii) the negativity / unhappiness of the person who was cheated on will in turn cause unhappiness for the cheater - the person who had been cheated on won't be a nice person to be around ...

the best time to split up ...

i wondered recently when the ideal time to split up is ?

it's definitely better to do it in spring or summer ... it's a bad enough experience, but you really don't need dark days and early nights to make it even more depressing ... especially if you are moving house as well !

also, splitting up on a friday evening is probably the best time of the week - you've got the whole weekend to suffer the shock, so hopefully by monday morning you'll be in a vaguely fit state for work, without bursting into tears in the office !