30 May 2007

masculine form of affection ?

i really don't like using words such as darling, dear, honey or any of the usual forms of affection used by straight men for the girlfriends ...

so, i'm looking for some help ... can anybody suggest some masculine sounding terms of endearment ??

10 comments:

GB said...

Somehow I always end up with pet-names for my bfs, names that relate to things we've discussed and jokes we've shared. They're the best names I reckon when you're alone together. However with me, they're not usually the kind of names you'd want to be heard using in public!

So, the fact you're asking this question, does this mean you've finally found yourself a bf?

GB xoxox

Monty said...

The looooong time between blog posts may indeed suggest that our boy has found himself a man! And yes, i agree with GB, normally it's something that is more a pet name. I know my last ummm, "b/f" called me Tiger. don't ask why.

Kerri said...

I hear alot of my guy friends calling each other babe... I don't think it sounds too girly.

close encounters said...

thanks for the suggestions, but i'm looking for a general term of affection ... and unfortunately Babe [although a great word in the right place], isn't quite my thing !

any other suggestions ?? i'm getting worried that i'll never find anything suitable !

Ian said...

My boyfriend calls me 'bubs', his masculine take on 'babe' (a bit childish but I let him have it). Others have have been: pop-tart (I'm a morning sex fiend apparently), toppy/tops (yeah that's a little obvious), and Buck (last name being Buckle). So there you have it, I don't think they are so bad.

Will said...

Stud should work--it's also a good compliment. Love (or Luv) should also work, but only if there really IS love between you. You don't want to inspire panic.

I've got a fuck buddy of some long time standing and there really IS affection between us in a gay borther-in-arms kind of way. Since we both appreciate a little dirty talk, Sexy Fucker, You Hot Gorgeous Man, and Hot Nuts get tossed around pretty freely. So does Sweet Ass. :-)

close encounters said...

thanks for the input Will ... but Stud doesn't really have the same endearment angle as Luv, Darling etc.

Sexy Fucker, and the rest, all have their place, but they're not really useable in public !

I'm still hoping for further suggestions ??

Tom Cat of Bondi Beach said...

how about budd or matey

close encounters said...

thanks for the suggestion Tomcat, but i don't think that they convey enough affection - i use mate the whole time, so unfortunately matey or budd is a bit too impersonal !

Sir Wobin said...

Terms of endearment and pet names are signs of emotional openess, vulnerability if you like. Sounds like your idea of masculinity involves emotional strength and invulnerability.

Good luck reconciling those 2 concepts since it sounds like you want to keep both.