where to buy good lube ?

i used to rely on my previous partner to supply lube, and to be fair he sourced some good quality stuff !

however, i now need to find it myself, and i'm struggling ! i've tried a few of the main high street pharmacies, but they only seem to stock one brand, which i don't rate ...

any suggestions of what brand to get, and where to get it ??

de-cruisifying a gym steam room ...

i've mentioned here before about the fun that i've had in my gym's steam room ...

well, since it came under new management a while ago, they have tried various measures to reduce the amount of cruising that goes on - presumably the management know what goes on ! their latest attempt is to increase significantly the amount of lighting - 1 lightbulb has been replaced by four spotlights !

thankfully this doesn't seemed to have dampened activities - it just means that it's easier to see when other guys are up for action !!

another technique they used the other day, was to just turn it off before closing time - but i'm not sure that really worked either ...

they might as well just give up, and accept that gay boys will do gay things ...

a brief encounter ...

last week i was feeling horny, so used my favourite website to look for some action ...

after a while i discussed meeting up with a bloke who seemed up for some quick action ... his profile suggested he was stocky, but his pics looked good, and he claimed they were recent, so i thought he was probably worth visiting ...

trouble was that he wasn't out, and he was worried about his flatmate coming back! now, i know all about the troubles of being in the closet, and looking for sex, so to some extent i am quite patient with these types ... but i've moved on since then, so i do find it a bit painful ...

anyway, eventually i convinced him that it was worth a go ... so i went over to his place. he was definitely a bit stockier than his pics implied ! but we did have some fun ... and i was out of his place quickly enough that his flatmate never saw me ...

gay divorce ...

the ft had an interesting short article last week about the divorce rates amongst gay couples since the introduction of marriage/partnership ...

finland has a 30% divorce rate, which is damm high considering that it's only a few years since gay weddings started ... whilst it's too early to get a sensible UK rate ...

it does seem to me that gay couples sometimes plunge into the partnership thing a bit too quickly ... i wonder whether it's availability it putting pressure on couples to commit to each other before they are really ready ...

first night with another bloke for a few months ...

i had chatted to this bloke a couple of times ... but we finally agreed to meet up ...

i hadn't really wanted to go on a date, but he suggested meeting for a drink, which seemed reasonable enough ... but ended up being more of a date than i had planned ! he was a lovely guy, and after a couple of beers, we were ready to leave, and i suggested going back to mine ...

after a lovely time together, i asked if he would stay the night ... which was lovely, but it had been so long since i had spent the night with another person in my bed, that i didn't sleep very much !

the next morning we had some more fun, so it was definitely worth asking him to stay ...

bloke with a small dick ...

i had been chatting to this bloke a couple of days before, and we agreed to meet up on saturday afternoon ... but lunchtime came, and i hadn't heard anything from him ...

but i was logged onto my most visted dating website, and saw him online ... so we arranged to meet up shortly afterwards. he was a bit late, but looked good, and seemed keen, so we went back to mine to have some fun ...

he had a good body, and quite a small dick ... but that didn't stop us having fun ... and he was unusual in that he wanted to be jerked off rather than do it himself ...

he seemed like a nice guy, but i haven't heard from him since, so it doesn't look like we'll meet again !

how long can you last in a steam room ?

i've noticed that my local gym's steam room gets rather busy at weekends ... and there's a few guys who seem to spend half the afternoon in the steam room ! not that i'm complaining - it's always nice to have something to look at / play with ...

but i just can't last very long in the steam room - even with a couple of breaks for a cold shower and some drinking water, i usually only manage 3 sessions ... which takes about 15 mins ...

i really don't know how these blokes manage to spend over an hour in and out of the steam !

Mamma Mia film

i went to see the film of Mamma Mia recently, having seen the stage musical some years ago ...

the rumours of terrible singing from the male characters were widespread - but i didn't think that they were that bad ... however the singing from the women wasn't that great - it makes you wonder why they didn't get professional singers for the roles ? however, Julie Walters was fantastic in one of the supporting roles, which made up in part for some of the weaker actors ...

the most cringeworthy part of the film was Colin Firth's character turning out to be gay ! apparently it happens in the stage musical [i can't remember that] ... but it was truely horrific in the film - him getting topless and supposedly going out with one of the locals ... be prepared to cry !

a 2nd time with the rimmer ...

i'd been in contact with the amazing rimmer a few times, but hadn't met up ... but we did eventually manage it the other day ...

this time i went over to his place - a nice enough flat ...

it was good - he really is an awesome rimmer ... but he wanted to try stuff that i didn't really enjoy ... so i don't think that i'll be seeing him again ...

have you had got a stomach bug from rimming ?

a few days ago, i was logged onto gaydar, and a guy who had been a bit rude to me a few weeks before, contacted me - i sometimes wonder whether gay blokes have worse memories than average !

anyway, he seemed a bit more pleasant this time, and was keen to meet up ... and we were up for similar activities, so i agreed ...

he was a bit older than he looked in his pics, but not too much ... and i thought he might be fun, so we headed back to my place ... the 5 minute walk was a bit painful, as he didn't have much conversation ...

when we got indoors he started pulling his clothes off straight away ... but it was definitely worth taking the chance ... he was the first bloke that i've met who seriously enjoyed rimming his partner ! i almost felt guilty getting so much pleasure, so obviously had to return the favour ...

strangely, when walking with him afterwards for a few minutes [we were both going in the same direction - i wasn't seeing him home!], he was incredibly chatty - such a difference from beforehand ...

but, to get to the topic of the post ... about 24 hours later i developed a nasty little stomach bug ... and i'm wondering whether it was just a coincidence, or whether anybody has else got a bug from rimming ?

should i avoid a bloke who has unprotected sex ?

last weekend i was on gaydar looking for some action ... and noticed a bloke who seemed closeby ... and after an exchange of messages, he seemed like a decent enough type ... so i headed over to his place ...

i walk past his block fairly regularly, and didn't realise that it contained such nice flats ... his place was really nicely done out ...

he seemed a nice guy, eager to please, but not with the biggest equipment in the world ! we were having a good time, but i was shocked when he suggested having bareback sex ... maybe i'm just too naive, but no bloke has even mentioned it to me before ! obviously i didn't take him up on his offer.

after it was over, as i was leaving, he asked if he would see me again [strange question to ask in person] ... and i was honest, and said that i wasn't sure. what really puts me off going back for more, is the idea that he could may pick up STDs by having unprotected sex with other men ...

surely this is a good reason to avoid this bloke ?

3rd time with the pole

i had tried to see the polish bloke again, but couldn't make the day we had arranged ... but luckily he was available the next evening ...

again we chatted for ages, which was nice ... but he didn't really seem up for fun ... but eventually i persuaded him to enjoy himself - which he did !

he wants to go on a date next time we meet ... i'm not sure how to tell him without hurting him that i like him as a friend, and for sex, but i'm not really looking for a relationship right now ...

i guess that i'll have to risk the potential loss of a nice guy [and good sex] and tell him ...

another ejaculation in the steam room

it was fairly late the other night in the gym, and there was only 1 other bloke in the steam room ... i'd seen him before checking me out, so i knew he was gay ...

i didn't feel inhibited in showing my excitement ... but he didn't really touch himself, or get excited at all ! he looked quite well endowed, which made up for his other deficiencies ...

so i was a bit surprised, when he started encouraging his member, and came over to my side of the steam room ... he really did have a good body, but his dick didn't really get any bigger - i was more surprised than disappointed ... and from having not shown any excitement, he was suddenly ejaculating on me !

2nd time with the pole

i had tried contact the polish guy a couple of times, without a response ... and was beginning to think that he wasn't interested, but saw him on gaydar, so thought i'd try again ... and he did respond !

i went over to his place again, and this time we chatted for ages before getting down to it ... which was nice ... but i'm a little worried that it's developing into more than what i'm looking for at this stage ...

he really is very fit, and the encounter was good fun ...

ejaculation in the steam room ...

there's often plenty of action in the steam room at my gym ... but i've never seen any of the fun being taken to the logical conclusion ... it either happens in the showers, or off site ...

however, the other day, a couple of blokes were getting it on, with the older bloke sucking on the younger, slimmer bloke's dick - it often seems to be the older blokes who are less cautious in the steam room ...

these 2 blokes had been at it for a few minutes ... when the younger bloke looked like he might be getting ready to shoot ... and he did ! it wasn't the biggest load ever, but it was still quite fun to see it happening in the steam room ...

the only negative was that the bloke who shot his load didn't seem to get much pleasure from it ... not sure if he is nominally straight, or attached, or something ... but he definitely didn't seem that happy about it !