20 August 2008

should i avoid a bloke who has unprotected sex ?

last weekend i was on gaydar looking for some action ... and noticed a bloke who seemed closeby ... and after an exchange of messages, he seemed like a decent enough type ... so i headed over to his place ...

i walk past his block fairly regularly, and didn't realise that it contained such nice flats ... his place was really nicely done out ...

he seemed a nice guy, eager to please, but not with the biggest equipment in the world ! we were having a good time, but i was shocked when he suggested having bareback sex ... maybe i'm just too naive, but no bloke has even mentioned it to me before ! obviously i didn't take him up on his offer.

after it was over, as i was leaving, he asked if he would see me again [strange question to ask in person] ... and i was honest, and said that i wasn't sure. what really puts me off going back for more, is the idea that he could may pick up STDs by having unprotected sex with other men ...

surely this is a good reason to avoid this bloke ?

4 comments:

Jay said...

Yes indeed, avoid him. The same thing happened to me too and i declined him. Alarm bells should be ringing. I would suggest you get tested. And explain to him why you wouldn't like to see him again.

Monty said...

Yeah, I wouldn't be seeing him again...just too risky, even if you take precautions yourself.

Anonymous said...

Wow. I'm amazed you're even asking if this is risky. You should have walked out straight away...

Z said...

You should always go through life assuming that anyone you encounter sexually is HIV positive and take the necessary precautions (i.e., practice safer sex). So basically, never fuck without a condom, unless you are in a monogamous relationship and only after you have both been tested and have established trust. Whether or not you do oral with a condom is up to personal choice, but it is also not risk free.