2nd time with the pole

i had tried contact the polish guy a couple of times, without a response ... and was beginning to think that he wasn't interested, but saw him on gaydar, so thought i'd try again ... and he did respond !

i went over to his place again, and this time we chatted for ages before getting down to it ... which was nice ... but i'm a little worried that it's developing into more than what i'm looking for at this stage ...

he really is very fit, and the encounter was good fun ...

ejaculation in the steam room ...

there's often plenty of action in the steam room at my gym ... but i've never seen any of the fun being taken to the logical conclusion ... it either happens in the showers, or off site ...

however, the other day, a couple of blokes were getting it on, with the older bloke sucking on the younger, slimmer bloke's dick - it often seems to be the older blokes who are less cautious in the steam room ...

these 2 blokes had been at it for a few minutes ... when the younger bloke looked like he might be getting ready to shoot ... and he did ! it wasn't the biggest load ever, but it was still quite fun to see it happening in the steam room ...

the only negative was that the bloke who shot his load didn't seem to get much pleasure from it ... not sure if he is nominally straight, or attached, or something ... but he definitely didn't seem that happy about it !

first fun at my flat in 4 years ...

i've always preferred to visit blokes at their places ... sometimes for practical reasons of privacy, otherwise, just because i felt it was safer - i've always been a bit worried about whether a bloke would try and trash my place, or steal my stuff ... whereas, at least if a bloke went mental at his place, then i'd just have to get out !

well, the other day, i was eyeing up this bloke in the showers at the gym - he seemed interested, and had a nice looking dick ... so i met him outside ... where it turned out that he shared with others, and since i had my place to myself, it seemed only right to go back to mine !

i'm not sure if it was me being worried about having somebody back to my flat, or whether it just wasn't such a good session ... but i definitely didn't enjoy myself as much as sometimes ... but still, it wasn't bad !

he seemed to be really into me, which was nice, but i don't think that i'll have a repeat performance with him if by any chance he suggests it ...

quickie with a doctor ...

it was late ... i should have already logged off gaydar ... but a guy showed up online who was closeby ... so i thought that i might as well go and see what he looked like - he was a bit older than i normally go for, but he looked like he had a good body, so i thought it was worth a trip ...

in the flesh he looked similar to his photos, but was a bit more camp than i expected ... but he seemed nice, so we went back to his place - which was quite a cool/funky flat ! it didn't take long for us to get it on ... and he turned out to be seriously impressive at pleasuring his partner ...

it was a great, if slightly short, session ... maybe i should try slightly older guys more often !

do straight guys wear nipple bars ?

i noticed a bloke in my office has a nipple bar - i could see it when he leant back and his white shirt stretched over his chest ! i don't have the best gay radar, so couldn't tell if he is gay ... but presumably nipple bars aren't big in the straight world ?

bumping into a friend straight after an encounter !

what should i do if i bump into a friend straight after an encounter as i'm coming out of a guy's flat ?

it was 1am, and it would have been obvious what i'd been up to ... so i just froze, and luckily he walked past without seeing me ! i couldn't believe the freakish chance of that happening ... hopefully it won't happen again, but i need a strategy if it does ...

a lot of my straight friends wouldn't be that comfortable with the idea that gay blokes have encounters like i do ... and some of them could be quite jealous of it ... so i really don't want to let them know ... but maybe there's no alternative - claiming to be "visiting a friend" might work sometimes, but if the real friend knows you well, it's a long shot !

any suggestions ?

my first pole

considering the number of polish guys in london, in the past i'd thought it strange that i'd never met up with a single polish guy throughout all my encounters ...

a couple of days ago, i'd logged into gaydar, and wasn't paying a huge amount of attention to it, as i was checking my emails ... i'm still getting used to gaydar again after a year's break, so it's taken a while to get back into the swing of things !

anyway, a chat window opens with some guy contacting me ... he has a reasonably good profile ... so i respond ... and he seems very interested ... i send a couple of pics ... and he is definitely up for meeting ! it almost seems too quick - most guys want to ask lots of questions ... so i'm a bit wary ... but i head over to his place to see what he's like ...

in the flesh he's definitely better looking than his photo - and he seems like a really nice guy ... i drink a glass of water that he offers, and we are soon all over each other ... he had a gorgeously smooth body, and we had a great time ... the only downer was that he hadn't washed his dick recently enough - but it wasn't too bad ! he had the lights down low in the bedroom, and some music playing on his computer, which made for a good atmosphere - although when the screensaver timed out, it did become a bit too dark - i like to see who i'm with !

afterwards, we had a bit of a chat, but he had to get up early the next morning, so i didn't stay for too long ... but he seemed really keen to meet up again, and he doesn't live far away ... so maybe he's a potential regular FB !

how to stop your ex finding out your new address ?

i am setting up a post redirection from my ex's place to my new place, but Royal Mail always miss some items, so the question is, how to get hold of my post, without giving my ex my new address ?

i could drop by and collect the errant items, but i don't really want to see him / go to his place ...

i could ask him to send them / give them to a mutual friend, but that sounds a bit over the top ...

or i could give him my new address, and he could forward them ... but i really don't want him to have my new address ...

any suggestions ?

would you join a bloke in a gym shower cubicle ?

the other day in the gym, a bloke was beckoning me to join him in his shower cubicle ... and he seemed really annoyed when i refused !

i enjoy a bit of fun in the steam room, but it's fairly easy to cover up when another bloke enters ... and although it may be obvious what's been going on, there's no incriminating evidence ...

however if i was caught in a shower cubicle with another bloke, there could be no claim to innocence - and i could potentially be kicked out of a gym that i really like !

what do other people think - would you join a bloke in a gym shower cubicle ?

a straight guy in the gym steam room

the steam room in my gym was particularly active the other day ... one bloke was showing off his hard on, and taking an interest in other guys ...

there was another bloke in the steam room who seemed fairly straight ... but the horny bloke got his dick out, working away, without complaint from the straight bloke, so i assumed it was ok ... especially as i could see that the straight bloke was getting hard !

when the show off bloke reached over to encourage the straight bloke's dick, i thought there was going to be a problem ... but the straight bloke didn't object, and after a minute he was reaching over to return the favour! it was then that i noticed the straight bloke was wearing a wedding ring ...

i really felt sorry for the straight bloke - you could see that he want to join in, but you could also see the pain on his face, as he thought he shouldn't ...

foreign gym nudity

one of the reasons that i manage to go to the gym on a vaguely regular basis, is to see fit guys in sports kit, and walking around naked in the changing rooms ... of course there is the always the bonus of any action in the steam room, but just the general nakedness in the changing rooms is worth the trip !

however, i was in South America recently, and went to the local gym hoping to see some of the local hot guys without their kit on ... only to find that they were much more conservative in their nakedness than in the UK. they were going into the shower cubicles with their shorts on, taking their underwear with them, and coming out with it on after having showered - so no public nakedness at all !

i'm not sure if it's a South American catholic conservatism thing, but it was very disappointing !

first encounter in over a year !

it was good to discover that i hadn't lost my online hookup skills in the year since i'd last used them ... i chatted to a guy who seemed very nice, and whose body pics looked really nice too !

we met up at a station near his place, and i wasn't disappointed - maybe a little older than he looked in his photos, but not much ...

after getting an orange juice at a local shop, we headed back to his place ...

he was the first to make body contact, and i responded positively! by the time we got into the lift to go up to his flat, we were all over each other ...

the activities were good - he had a lovely muscular body ... and afterwards we lay together for ages ...

he kept telling me that i was really sweet - which was a really nice complement ...

after some more activites, and some more relaxing, i thought i'd better check the time, as it seemed like we'd been together for well over an hour ... only to discover that it had been 3 hours!

i don't think that i've ever spent so long with an encounter ... and it really was a nice way to get back in the saddle !

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visit to the clap clinic

after recent revelations, i decided that it was time to take another trip to my local Sexual Health Clinic ...

on my one previous visit, i got rather annoyed by the lecturing attitude of the doctor and a nurse ... i was hoping for a better experience this time ...

thankfully i didn't recognise anybody in the waiting room ... but i noticed a couple of other people did !

it didn't start off well, as i had to wait over an hour from my allotted appointment time ... but the female doctor i saw was much nicer than the male doctor that i got last time ...

between her and the female nurse, they did all the tests ... and this time they didn't do the slightly painful scrape of the urethra - apparently an improved urine test means it's no longer necessary !

just as during my last visit, they really pushed me to have a Hep A vaccine ... but i wasn't keen - slightly worried that future medicals might question why I had been vaccinated against it ...

the nice doctor questioned me about my sexual history, and asked whether i considered myself gay or bisexual - which i thought was a rather strange, non-scientific question ? she also checked whether i was aware that they do an evening clinic specifically for gay men ... which made me wonder whether she was suggesting it as a good cruising opportunity ?

anyway, the results took over a week, and i'd forgotten about them, until a text message arrived ... all clear !

how to get rid of a steam room hog ?

my gym's steam room is being ruined by a bloke who hangs out there for ages and ages ... this bloke is not very high up on the desirability scale, so it just puts the rest of us off !

trouble is, how does one get ride of him ?

he has witnessed activities, so if any of us who are interested in fun, grass on him, then he'll be able to get us back !

any suggestions ?